I had read about the montessori bed before I gave birth. The concept is simple, you do not have a crib. You have a mattress on the floor. While the baby is a newborn you use a cot like a moses basket, and either place that on the matress or in your room. After a few weeks you transfer baby straight onto the mattress and go from there.
Honestly, I was too afraid. Even with the bumpers under the sheets to prevent them from rolling off, I still felt scared that he would roll into the sides and stop breathing. Whereas with the crib I could keep his mattress bare and knew he should be okay. Plus I liked the look of the crib and my mother-in-law really wanted to gift us a crib. So we decided to crib it for a few months.
But we both knew that once Eesa was able to stand in his crib and we had to lower it to the lowest level, we would want him out of there. I did not want him to learn of the crib as a restriction for him. I wanted him to have his independence within his own room and make the decision to sleep.
I also expected that to happen around 10-12 months old. So when he was able to stand at 7 months old I was a little thrown back. I waited until about 9 months old honestly just because I got busy, not because I felt like he needed the extra time. So at 9 months old we dismantled his crib (but kept the pieces in our room in case this went horribly wrong) and laid his mattress of the floor in the exact same place.
I then made sure the room was clear of anything he could potentially hurt himself with because he would now have the freedom of playing without my supervision. He quickly figured out that he was no longer restricted, and for the first 2 nights he would crawl to the door and cry until we went to get him. The second night he woke up in the middle of the night, ate and then decided he wanted to play. So I left him in his room with his nightlight on, and he played for a bit and then went to sleep. It was wonderful.
It is super plain and not pretty right now, I will redesign his room around his 1st birthday when he gets used to the bed 🙂
He crawled into his own bed and decided to sleep. I was ecstatic. He now sleeps like that every night. Some nights we pat his back to sleep, some nights he is knocked out before we even put him down after nursing, and some nights he is upset for a few minutes but eventually crawls himself into bed and sleeps like a baby 🙂 We do the same thing for naps.
All in all, I am very happy with it. His room needs a redesign because it now feels very empty without the crib. His toy shelf got a makeover, with his bins gone and a variety of toys displayed for him to choose.
Sometimes, we end up like this, and that is okay too.
He’s growing up *tear* I love you Eesa.